I remember when we use to go to school together and play basket ball for the town league. I also remember that we use to work at target. We had fun times together from the years that we known eachother. I'm truely sorry for your lost. He was such a great kid and fun to hang out with. Rest easy Jake, we already miss u so much.

Tomorrow will hands down be the hardest day of my 20 years of life. Especially when 9 of those years have been filled with memories of you. I remember the first day of 6th grade, you "asked me out" and I said yes. Then an hour later at lunch and we broke up because I didn't even know your last name. But ever since that day, we became great friends. You took part in most of my middle and high school memories and I wouldn't have it any other way. You grew from a hilarious young punk to a fine, caring young man and I can tell you that everyone is proud of you for that. You amazed so many people whether it was with your art, love for baseball, wrestling or even your kind words, which you offered me in many heart to heart conversations. Jake, I can't even begin to say how much I miss you or how much you will be missed. But I can tell you one thing, I will be thinking of you everyday. You will forever carry on in my heart. Rest peacefully my friend. I’ll be seeing you. Love Always, Stitz

I remember the blonde headed young boy laughing and splashing in the backyard in the new pool. The one who feed CB cereal. How he enjoyed friends and company. My deepest Sympathy, Maryellen and Nathan, on another loss of your family. You are in my prayers.

MaryEllen, I am so sorry. May all your memories of Jake help you get through the days ahead.

So sorry for your loss. Jake was a great kid never a time I didn't see him with a huge smile on his face. He impacted many peoples lifes. his memory will live on

My prayers are with your family in this tragic time RIP Jake 🙁

Mel and Nate: Words seem useless at this time. Take comfort in knowing that Jake is safe in his dads' arms. Please know that we are here for both of you any time you need us. Emerson St smply will not be the same. We will always cherish the wonderful, fond memories of wiffle ball games in our backyard when Jake would "wow" us with his famous knuckleball and usually dent our aluminum siding. Cherish those memories-they will be a continuous source of comfort and strength. Much love, Judy, Paul, Maggie and Molly Hartigan

Mary Ellen i am sorry for your loss and may god bless u at this time .

Maryellen-We were so sorry to hear of Jakes passing. I wish there were something I could do to help ease your pain however I can only pray that you and your family find comfort in knowing Jake is at peace. Keep his memory alive and never forget his smile. Please, if there is anything at all I can do for you just give me a call. Jake- May you find peace and serenity in Heaven. With love and condolences, Brenda & Lisa Corvi and Bev Parker

Maryellen, I am so very sorry for you and your sons tremodous loss. Just take great comfort that he will always be will you in heart and soul.God Bless to u and your family at this time.Bettty-Anne McInerneyn

MaryEllen and Nate, I am so sorry to hear about Jake's passing. He was always such sweet kid. My prayers and thoughts are with you always. Steph

Jake was a special person and will be missed by all the people who were blessed enough to know him. He always made me smiled and had such an easy way that everyone called him a friend. I am truly sorry for your loss. May the memory of his joy get you through this difficult time.

Jake had such a free spirit that brought about love and compassion. My prayers are with you during this time. May his love and compassion stay with you forever. Keep his memory alive. We will miss that smile.

Jake was one hell of a kid. Every time I saw him he had a new piece of art he would like to show off. Always in a good mood and has never been mad as far as I could tell. My prayers go out to his family and loved ones as this is going to be a very huge loss in everyones hearts but he will never leave our minds. May you rest in peace Jake. Always and forever.

There are just too many memories... Jake was my closest friend and I can only wish I had more time to grow up with him. There is no place in Rockland I can go without some memory coming back to me. My home was his second, and his mine. My family was his second, and his mine. Together, we lived life to its fullest and I plan to carry on his legacy in the best ways I can. I love you Marley, take care of us. Mel & Nate, You know my father, mother, brothers, and myself will always be here for you. You are a part of our family and always will be. Never forget it. We love you with all of our hearts and will help you through all this. Jake will forever be missed. Love Always, Adam Straughn

Jake was a great person. Everyone who knew him, knew him as a caring spirit who positively touched the lives of all those who knew him. He will be missed by all.

IN Memory of Jake~Sadly missed but never forgotten!

Mel and Nate.....I am so sorry for the sudden loss of Jake. My thoughts and prayers are with you both! Jake~Fly high with the angel's you're in Daddy's arms again~ Sadly missed but never forgotten! RIP Love, Tracy

Dear Maryellen and Nate, I am so sorry. Your pain is immense. We all love you. God Bless Jacob and the Hayden family.

I'm sorry you had to go out this way kid. You were a good dude very down to earth. I hate to see people like you go and be stuck with your opposites. I give my condolences to the family I am truly sorry for your loss. Jake was a amazing human being and he will never be forgotten. Cya in the future Jake.

Maryellen and Nate, We are so sorry to hear of Jake's passing and know how difficult this is for both of you. There are no answers as to why he was taken from us at such an early age. I will remember his smile, his constant requests that he leave school and "run to Tedeschi's," and his love of baseball. I will remember how much he loved his family. God Bless you and be with you. Jim and Sue Patton

Jake was such a unique individual and a gifted photographer...he was such an old soul. I truly enjoyed knowing him and having him as an art student at RHS. He will be deeply missed. I am so sorry for your loss, Cheryl Thompson

Mel and Nate, my deepest condolences. Please know that I have very warm memories of little Jake and of your family - the times that we were able to spend with you all at your house as children are truly priceless to me.

Mary Ellen and Nathan - I don't have to tell you that Jake was such a great person. I NEVER can think of a time that I didn't see him smiling and being friendly when I was around him. He was so great to Riley last September when we lost Grammy. I will never forget how happy he and Riley looked as they went out for an evening on the town...just the guys, pizza and fun! Riley will always have that good memory with Jake. I feel better for having known him (What little time I was able to spend with him since we lived so far apart)...and I know the sadness I am feeling for losing Jake pales in comparison to what you two are feeling in losing a beloved son and brother. My thoughts are with you and the family. I love you and I will always remember Jake as I last saw him in September...smiling, caring and full of nice things to say about everyone. Love, Marisa and Riley Hayden

Mary Ellen & Nate, please know what a very special young man Jake was to Joe, Joe, Nick & I, if only for the too-brief time he lit our lives. ALWAYS passionate, ALWAYS compassionate...about his family, his close circle of friends, & making sure those around him knew that he loved & cared about them in the most important ways. Jake was the real "deal", and his unique impact on the lives he touched will never, ever be forgotten. A very special gift this young man was to those lucky enough to have really known him, and we are so very grateful that we got that chance to know him.

there are no words... just no words.... We're so sorry ...oxoxox

We were so sorry to hear about Jake's passing. I remember Jake when he was little, coming home after a game, and then having him in class in high school. He was a great kid. Much love to you, Mary Ellen and Nate.

“Maryellen and Nate I am sorry to hear of the sudden loss of Jake he was a great kid and was always willing to help anyone who needed it. My thought's and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Maryellen and Nate, My prayers are with you and for Jake. I was saddened to hear of his passing. He was too young. I hope he finds the peace and happiness he was looking for. He will be with Ted and God. I have great memories of him in my photography class and when I think of him, it will be with a smile. He was a good kid.

Maryellen Im so sorry, you are such a kind women. you shouldnt have to see this happen to jake. Im so so sorry. I will always be a friend of yours. I will always be there for you. I have been the day you called me you daughter. My prays go out to all of the Haydens and his friends. Im going to miss seeing your smiling face everyday Jake.

Maryellen, im so sorry for your loss, i know words arent enough for you to even know im very sorry i am for your loss, jake was a sweet kid i know we werent close or anything but he seemed like a real friend, someone you could talk to,

Maryellen & Nate We were so sorry to read about Jake We are keeping you in our prayers Debbie & John Mearls

I was greatly sadden to learn of the loss of Jake. Someone very wise once told me that imortality is attainable as long as you are remembered. I could never forget Jake's smiling face and enthusiasm. I will always remember him fondly.

Maryellen, I am so sorry you had a deal with something as hard as this. If I can do anything just call me. You are in my Prayers and my Thoughts every day. Sorry I could not make Jake's sevices but I was with you in mind. You have alot of friends who are here for you so just remember reach out to us if you need too.

Maryellen: So sorry for your loss -we will keep you in our prayers. May you find peace through all of this Tom, Dianne & Greg Banks

Mary Ellen, I am so sorry to hear about Jake. I know no amount of words can seem to help at this time but you are in my heart and prayers and I will call and see you soon.

I will never forget the days Adam and I would walk to elementry school when I lived on west water.. It was how I even met Jake, he usto walk to school the same way as us.. He was my first crush. After highschool I got to know him a little bit better and I will never forget how is smile would light up the whole room, he knew how to change the mood anywhere he went, he had such a positive energy. Even though he was a little crazy, he was always fun to be around and I will never forget his laugh, it was the best. And how he introduced me to "hands down best potato skin pizza, without bacon tho!" at Themis.. He was amazing and will never be forgotten. Loved and missed always <3

I rembember when jake helped me and my mom move in the apartment He was so nice to me we had some in common even though i havent seen him in over 2 years ill miss em and always rember him as a friend RIP JAKE

"He kept at true good humour's mark,the social flow of pleasures tide:He never made a brow look dark,nor caused a tear,but when he died." Jake was a good hearted person,someone who I will always consider a friend.We had many laughs and deep conversations about life.He was good at keeping a positive attitude,was down to Earth and outgoing.In the short time that I knew him he has impacted my life and will always be in my memories,as well as many others that knew him. -Rest easy my friend

Mary Ellen, I am sorry to her of yur loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Irene Mulready is going to get your number so I can call and talk to you. Give my love to all of yours and Teddy's family and let them know I am thinking of all of you. Love Patti

rest in peace jake, forever in our hearts and souls.

jake, you were such a great guy in school to talk to, im in total shock, i cant, even describe how im feeling right now, i will always love and miss you, you were such an amazing young man,

Maryellen and Nate I am so sorry for the tremendous loss you are sufferring. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I wish I could have been there to give you a huge hug at the funeral. Jake, always so happy, warm and caring person. He brought joy to the lives of everyone he touched . I remember playing football with him when he was about 12 so full of energy and life. He will be deeply missed. Heavenly Father must really need Jake in Heaven. Him and Ted will be watching over you and your family and help make sure things turn out ok. love, Jason and Amanda

Maryellen, I am absolutely stunned. My step daughter, Tori Grignon, just posted this on face book.... I am so so sorry for your loss. I still remember when he was so little, and I am such a hugger... he wasn't, but would let me hug him to make me happy. I remember when he was playing in his little pool outside and slipped and fell, and that ridiculous cast he had to wear. Our beautiful Tori battled bone cancer at 14, but has been blessed with remission these past 3 1/2 years. You have all been through too much loss, and will be in our prayers... God bless <3 Edna and Jim Grignon

Dear Mary Ellen: There is nothing that anyone can say at a time like this to make things any better or easier for you. Please know that you and your family have the love and support of many friends.......and a very special new Angel up in heaven watching over you! Take care! Pam

Jake's kindness, caring, and smiles....these I will remember along with the poignant chapter that he wrote about his father in his senior memory book. To Mary Ellen and Nate, and to all of Jake's many friends, so many of you who are my former students, I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear son, brother and friend. May Jake's love give you comfort now and always. Mrs. Lannin-Cotton "Farewell, too little, and too lately known, Whom I began to think and call my own: For sure our souls were near allied, and thine Cast in the same poetic mold with mine." -by John Dryden, "In Memory of..."

Jake, You always knew how to make those around you smile....FYI I have perfected the the handshake. My thoughts and prayers to all those that had the pleasure to know you.

I am so sorry for your loss. All my prayers are with you and your family to help you through this time . Jake was an incredible young man. I don't think that I have ever met someone who cared so much for others as he did. I'm always going to remember what a sweet kid he was and how his smile could brighten up a room, not to mention his laugh. He'll always be with you and the rest of us in our hearts now, and the memories of him will always keep us smiling.

I am just now understanding how much Jake taught me. Love you my friend...

I am just now understanding how much Jake taught me. Love you my friend...

Rest in sweet sweet peace Jacob. I have wonderful memories of you and your kind heart. I am very sorry for your loss Mel and Nate. My prayers go out to you and your loved ones. Hela Heba Helloa

Sorry for your loss. Jake was one of a kind . He will be missed by anyone who came in contact with him.

MaryEllen, there are no words I can say that will make any of this easier, but please know that you and your family have not left my thoughts in the last week. I only had the pleasure of meeting Jake once and the thing I remember most about meeting him was his smile! I am so sorry for your loss and may your memories of Jake help you through this difficult time.

Mary Ellen and Nate, No amount of words can make up for the loss of jake. I will always remember Jake as that adorable little blonde haired boy whose smile lit up the room wherever he went. He was such a good friend to me growing up. Actually, he was the first friend I ever made in Mrs. Whites class. I watched jake progress over the years from a little trouble maker (which I always adored about him) into a young man who could cared so deeply for his friends and family. I am so thankful I had him as a major part of my life growing up. I will carry him in my heart everywhere I go. Jake sure was one of a kind and I'm really going to miss that about him. Never hesitate to ask if there is anything I can do for you guys. My thoughts and prayers are with you every day.

Mary Ellen, We are so sorry for your loss. May all your great memories help you through this horrible time. You are in our thought and prayers. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal; Love leaves a memory no once can steal! Hugs and Kisses from your favorite little Tedeschi customer~ Anna God Bless you and your family -Irene Mulready Gallagher and family

Dear MaryEllen: Sending our thoughts and prayers to you, Nate and the entire Hayden family. May God grant you peace and understanding as the days pass during this truly sad and unexpected loss of your son. My heart aches for you! Love & Hugs Judy (Riley) & David Updegraff

I only met Jake once. He was at my house after my son passed away. I will never forget what he said to me. He said that when he met Derek, Derek took him under his wing and introduced him to all of his friends and thats how he got alot of the friends that he has. He was such a nice gentleman. My thoughs and prayers are with you and your family. So sorry for your sudden loss.